TRUST

Trust is a big thing. People tell us to just TRUST and I hear, “HOW CAN I TRUST?” What you don’t realize is that you are already trusting, you just have to recognize what it is you are TRUSTING IN. So often, we trust in the negative, the worst case scenario. We build stories on the worst case scenario. “OMG, this is bad then this bad thing will happen then this bad thing…” and on and on we go with the worst case scenario. We envelop ourselves in FEAR. Pretty soon we believe in the stories we create. We believe it so much that we get exactly what we BELIEVED. That is trusting in the negative. How about TRUSTING in the positive; the BEST case scenario? “OMG, this good thing is going to happen then this good thing then this good thing is going to happen.” Doesn’t that feel better? Then  we get to the point where we BELIEVE the good story we are building then what happens?  Yep, you got it. The best thing happened. Why? Because you BELEIVED it would. You FOCUSED on the positive.

We are always TRUSTING but just what are you trusting in, the positive or the negative, the worst case scenario or the best case scenario? The universe always supports us 100%. So start trusting in the positive and the best case scenario. Build your stories around that and the universe will still support you 100%. If you are still not getting what you want then there is a belief you are carrying that is keeping you from moving forward. When FEAR comes in, don’t ignore it don’t push it away, face it. Look at it and ask it what it is showing you. It is there for you to choose something else, to prefer something different.

The negative is there so you can look to the positive. Just like the dark is there to show you the light. Choose what you prefer and take the steps to get there. If you are stuck and feel like you are being held back, there is a belief in you that is keeping you there. Ask yourself what belief you are carrying that is keeping you where you are, keeping you from moving forward. Many people believe they just don’t deserve the good. Change that, find out where that belief took root and change it.

Many times what we believe in was not ours to begin with. It came from our families, our friends, society, co-workers, etc. It is not up to anyone else to change your life, it is up to you. You are the only one to change your life. Take the first step. YOU DESERVE IT. Move ahead and embrace life. Embrace and believe in the positive, believe you deserve the very best.

Peace and love Linda

Change is about YOU

Change is up to you. I think most of us have been abused in some form, for that my deepest compassion. But changing your life is about YOU. YOU have to take the first step. YOU have to take action.

It is not about what they did to me or how they treated me. I said that for years, “Look at what they are doing to me. Look how they are mistreating me.” But you know what? It wasn’t about them. It was about me and how I viewed myself. Yes, most of my limiting beliefs came from them but I took those beliefs on as my own. I owned them; I believed those beliefs. What I did not know then was that those beliefs I had about myself kept me in a very unhealthy place in my life.

When it comes to family it can be difficult to set boundaries, to set lines that cannot be crossed even by family. We are taught that family is everything but that does not mean it gives them the right to abuse us. Many times our families are there as our teachers. They teach us what we don’t want to be. They show us that we can be different then they are, that we can be BETTER AND NOT BITTER. Families should be supportive, encouraging and loving. Sadly, many are not .

“I wish THEY would change.” I would say but it wasn’t about changing them it was about changing ME. I took the steps to change and not blame others.  I changed my beliefs, I changed how I viewed myself. I stopped blaming others and I stopped being angry at the ones who had hurt me. I FORGAVE. Forgiveness is empowerment. Transformation and change is about YOU. I took action toward change. I asked for guidance and direction to change my life and the teachers came. Teachers come in many forms: books, audios, people, art and creativity. These were all a huge part of my changing and growth. I read many self help books. Some of them were crap, some I took small things from and a couple of them even changed my life.

Today I continually work on ME, who I am and who I want to become. When you continually blame others, the anger will eat you up and you become a VICTIM. Being a victim will leave you powerless, bitter and angry. Don’t become a victim. Change does not happen overnight. It starts with the first step. It starts with action and with the intention of CHANGING MY LIFE. One of the first steps was to forgive those who hurt me. I forgave them for ME not for them, FOR ME. I did not want to end up how I viewed them. I viewed them as bitter, angry and unhappy. I wanted peace, love and happiness in my life. I have that and I work with progressing myself everyday and maintaining beliefs that serve me for my greatest good.

You have to believe you have the power to change and you have to believe you DESERVE a better life. If you don’t, your life won’t change. You have to want it, you have to take action to change and you have to believe you deserve. Take the steps to a better YOU, a more EMPOWERED YOU. When you empower yourself, you empower others and you radiate light and love. That comes from WITHIN. Take the first step. Take action, do it for YOU.

YOU DESERVE, I DESERVE, WE ALL DESERVE.

Peace and Love, Linda

HUGS

Hugs, how often do you HUG?  I love hugs, hugs are awesome.  Hugs are warm, comforting, gentle and just really really nice.  I hug my loved ones, I hug my friends, I hug my neighbors, I hug my clients.  People love getting hugged it feels nice, friendly comforting and guess what it is good for you.

Hugging leads to the release of love hormone called oxytocin, which combats feelings of loneliness, anger and anxiety.  A long hug results in an increase in Seratonin levels, which elevates your mood and makes you HAPPY.  Hugs are similar to meditation or even laughter.  Your mind stops thinking and you live in the moment.  WOW YAY for HUGS…..

A hug is universal medicine, it is how we handshake from the heart.     Hug today hug everyday.  Let’s handshake from the heart.  It is said that you should hug at least 12 times per day.  Start counting your hugs.  I get at least that many just from my wonderful hubby.

Start HUGGING more, Start HUGGING someone everydayIt makes you feel good it makes them feel good and it is GOOD for you.  HURRAY FOR HUGGING.  I am going to hug more, I think you should too.

Peace and Love Linda